Step 18: Prepare to Lie If you’re planning an escape from abuse, prepare yourself for this reality: You’re going to have to lie. A LOT. Even if you’re an honest person. Even if you HATE it. Because your safety will depend on your ability to keep your plan a secret. Lying is what buys you time to get out with more than just the clothes on your back. And yes, the guilt is BRUTAL. While I was packing a go bag, gathering documents, and setting up a secret bank account that week… …my ex was still cal